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The Oedipus complex is a concept that arises from the classical theories of Sigmund Freud. This
Psychoanalytical term has its origin in a work of the ancient Greece,
where Oedipus, son of the King of Thebes, ends up killing his father and
take his place, marrying the Queen Jocasta, his mother. Freud
used this work to explain one of the first stages of psychosexual
development of children, which takes place between three and five years
of age, in which occurs a modification of their behavior, thereby it
idealizes the mother, arising a feeling of love towards her, and showing
hoarding it, in competition with any other male that remove you your
attention and his love rival usually the father, who becomes subject to feelings of alienation and hatred.
Mother-oriented positive feelings are expressed with greater attention, with exemplary behavior, looking for always have content and spend more time together, almost like a lover, with expressions as "Am who loves most in the world" or going to the father, "the boyfriend of mami I'm I, not you", as well as give it gifts made by himself, letters and notes with hearts , or flowers that collects in the Park on the way to school.
On the contrary, it shows deep negative feelings toward the father, which is the most direct competitor of the affection of his mother. These sentiments are expressed in the form of anger and temper tantrums, ignoring him and with behaviors of disobedience that seek to provoke and anger the father, all in order to express their disagreement with that is taking center stage in front of the mother.
This complex, according to the father of psychoanalysis, is universal and affects all children between three and five years old, and its resolution occurs naturally with the passage of time, disappearing around six years, without major consequences. That is why with a correct understanding of this stage by parents to avoid bad misunderstandings and unnecessary concerns.
The Electra complex
Some authors claim that Freud's theory has been created to explain the development of the child, forgetting the girl. Others
however claim that the theory is valid both for the child and for the
girl, and that both would pass through the same stages of psychosexual
development. For Jung, a disciple of Freud, was
an insufficient theory, so to give explanation to the development of la
Niña contributed the term Electra complex.
The Electra complex, therefore, would the supplementary complex, which would realize exactly otherwise, i.e. the relationship of the girl with their parents, looking for acceptance and affection of his father whom he shows loving feelings, mother becoming a rival for the affection of the father, to whom their negative feelings are directed.
Consequences of the Oedipus complex
The Oedipus complex can have
consequences both for the small, which can vary their behavior thought
way, trying to draw the attention of the mother and competing with the
father; as for parents, which should know that
it's a natural stage of development and therefore not more attention you
or concern, knowing that it is something transient that is overcome
When the couple is well Avenue, the Oedipus complex is not going to lead to major problems, beyond which the having to adapt to the new behavior of the small, trying not to criticize you or judge you, knowing that it is temporary and that the child is only governed by some children's feelings, which are overcome when it matures, without major consequences.
On the other hand, when there are problems within the couple with marital disagreements, with frequent arguments, the new behavior of the son will not do only aggravate this situation, where the small will try to ally with the mother against father, accentuating their positive and negative feelings, trying to put all means to avoid that the situation fix.
Sometimes mother does not notice the increase in attention and praise by the kid, whereas one expression of love, and is the father who usually detect the bad ways with which is received by the child when you arrive home, or by its continued defiant behavior, either way, when you see change for the worse It is appropriate to find out if your child requires therapeutic help.
When a specialist detects the presence of the Oedipal complex gets caution to parents so they can be aware of what happens to the child, who despite not being a disorder and therefore does not require any treatment, if it is necessary to know the changes of positive and negative behavior that is going to be showing ensuring that the father does not feel hurt by the rejection that express him his son.
Solutions and tips for the Oedipus complex
Naturally, and as part of process of
psychosexual development of the small, over the five years, the minor
will abandon the Oedipal complex and will pass to the next stage, where
the father is no longer a threat to become an example, occurring in many
cases closer to his figure, by a phenomenon of identification with her
father and what he represents.
Therefore, if parents start to see excessively loving behaviour towards the mother, older and ostentatious attentions to her, and rejection of the father, avoiding it or putting bad faces, must be calm, knowing that it is part of the natural process of the development of the small, without worrying about this, since when over time, this complex will disappear without leaving greater consequences on it.
Only when the minor shows is too upset by the situation, in a way that becomes unbearable, with constant tantrums and cries before the father, or who don't go anywhere without it, single mother even let it to talk to other people because of jealousy, either if repetitive nightmares occur, is when it is necessary to pay more attention. In these cases of Oedipus complex, these are some solutions and tips that can be done:
• Avoid manifestations of affection between the couple in the presence of the small that can increase your jealousy.
• To ensure sufficient time for the small, so don't feel displaced in his love.
• Allow to have moments of relaxation with the father, so that this becomes a source of fun and entertainment, to compensate themselves for the complex feelings.
• Avoid criticizing, judging or mocking the attitudes and behaviors brought about by the Oedipus complex in the small, since it sees it as something normal, even for adult may seem odd or absurd.
• Avoid competition for the attention of the mother, handing out this his time between both, in such a way that will not encourage the negative feelings toward the father.